Maryland parents like you come to decisions of divorce over time. It takes a lot of consideration and painful struggling. You are also likely most concerned about your child. How will they take this? How can you comfort them in the aftermath of the news?
There is no perfect way to break news of a divorce. It is going to have a somewhat traumatic impact no matter what. But your actions can greatly limit the damage.
Remember all children react differently
Psychology Today examines some of the ways in which you can break the news of divorce to your child. First, take your child’s age, maturity and personality into consideration. There are many guides out there that teach you how to talk to kids of different ages. But a young child can have extra maturity. An older child may have less maturity. One child with a testy personality may not react to any tactic as well as a child with a calmer one. You must tailor your approach to your child, using advice as guidelines.
Share what you can with your child
But all children benefit from information sharing. This does not mean telling your child every detail of your divorce. In fact, some studies show that oversharing is unhelpful. It may even cause damage. Instead, you should share how divorce will impact your child. Tell them which parent is moving out. Let them know what your plans are for custody and visitation schedules. With less unknown elements, your child may feel less fear.
Finally, always reassure your child. Let them know you both love them. Tell them this is not their fault. Children tend to internalize guilt and blame over a parent’s divorce. You may need to tell them many times that it has nothing to do with them.