People sometimes buy into the myth that divorce is always dramatic, that it always comes with an eye-opening story. They talk about things like infidelity and domestic violence. They talk about addiction issues or the impact of unemployment.
Yes, all of these things do contribute to divorce in the United States, but not always. In some cases, it’s not dramatic at all. People just grow apart.
One woman related the story of the day her husband told her he didn’t want to stay married. Their marriage had slowly unraveled over time. They had grown apart. After 12 years of marriage, without any dramatic events, her husband just arrived at the conclusion that he wanted to end it.
When he told her, he could barely say it. She could tell he felt terrible about it. Even at the time, she said that she wanted to comfort him.
She was hurt, but it didn’t come with the anger that people often imagine. He wasn’t angry with her, nor was she angry with him. And he wasn’t the only one who had considered divorce.
They just didn’t have the closeness that they once had. Time had pulled them away from it. Even though they had built a life together and even had a child together, they just did not feel the same about each other as they did when they got married.
Divorce takes a lot of forms and comes with a lot of challenges. Every case is unique. If you find yourself on the edge of a divorce, you need to know what steps to take.