The process of divorce can bring out many emotions in you. It is essential for you to know what to expect, so you can address these issues as they come up. You might be surprised how often you feel ups and downs, especially during the first year.
One that might surprise you is the sadness that you feel. You aren’t necessarily upset that your marriage is over, but you might grieve what was supposed to be. You may feel like you let yourself down because you are going through a divorce. This is normal, but try to pull yourself up out of the sadness as soon as you can.
You might also feel anger. When you make it to this point, remember that you have a right to feel this way. You don’t have the right to take that anger out on innocent people or to blame your ex for anything that isn’t their fault. Addressing the anger and underlying issues can help you move past this feeling.
Once you finally come to terms with the divorce, you may feel acceptance. This is a great feeling that can help you move forward with your life. Just make sure that you remain ready to cope with more waves of feelings because you never know when something will bring up a memory that evokes an emotional response.
Some divorcees realize that stress is a major factor in some of the negative emotions that come along at the end of the marriage. You can try to minimize this by keeping an open mind during the mediation process or by working on your case if you know you are going to trial for the divorce.