The changes that come with a divorce can make children act in manners they wouldn’t usually behave. One thing that can come at this time is sibling rivalry. Even kids who haven’t ever gone through this might suddenly start to have these battles when their parents split up. While it is normal for siblings to vie for attention, the uptick in this situation might need to be addressed.
Sibling rivalries tend to peak around 10 to 15 years old. They come with bickering but shouldn’t ever involve physical confrontations. In the case of divorce, the causes of the issues might be a bit more serious.
It is possible that one child is blaming the other for the divorce. This is a problem that has to be addressed right away. Both parents might have to sit down with all the children and remind them that the divorce was strictly an adult decision and that it didn’t have anything to do with any single child.
Your children might be bickering and fighting more because they want attention. They may feel like they have to compete to have you to themselves. You and your ex need to continue to spend time with each child, and don’t fall into the habit of using inconsistent parenting involvement.
Children might fight more with each other because they are feeling angry, scared or stressed and don’t know how to handle those emotions. Paying close attention to what your child is saying and doing can help you determine how to help them. Some children might need to have sessions with a mental health professional.
When sibling rivalries take over your children, you and your ex will likely need to work as a team to put the underlying issues to rest. This can set a good precedent for the remainder of the parenting relationship.