Telling your children that you are divorcing is a big event in their life. One thing that you need to be prepared for is the questions that are bound to come up. You and your ex may need to make a parenting plan before you tell the kids because a good number of these questions are going to have to do with how they are going to spend time with both parents. We know that these questions won’t be easy to answer, but taking the time to make a plan can help you to put the kids’ feelings at ease.
Setting up a basic parenting schedule can help you to give the children a plan. One word of caution – don’t make promises about anything that you can’t keep. There are times when things will change so it is a good idea to warn children that your plans aren’t set in stone. You have to be careful with what you tell the children if they are younger because they might take generalizations to heart.
All of the decisions you make regarding child custody must be made based on what is best for the children. This might not be what is easiest for you, but you can’t consider what you want. We know that this is a challenge, so we can help you to evaluate the options and determine how they might impact the kids.
As you and your ex work out the agreement for the children, get things put in writing. If questions arise, you can review the written agreement to determine what needs to happen to address the matter.