There are a lot of tips out there for parents on how to help their child cope with divorce. But what about tips for children of parents that are divorcing? Your parents may divorce at any age, which means you may be faced with their split when you are 14 or even when you are 40.
First and foremost, give yourself time to get used to the idea of a new family life. This also means giving yourself time to grieve the end of your family as you knew it. You may feel compelled to try to keep them together or be a mediator for them, but that is not your job. It is also not your job to become the head of the household. You are entitled to be a child and enjoy your childhood. Take time to take care of yourself. Stick to your daily routines and seek help from a counselor or a close friend. Make sure you talk to someone about how the divorce makes you feel.
Find time to spend with each parent and do not feel guilty for doing so. On the other hand, do not take sides. It may feel like you want to protect one of your parents, but they are adults and need to handle the situation on their own. If they reach out to you or try to make you take sides, do your best to be a neutral party.
Finally, do your best to be understanding. This is definitely a difficult time for your parents but it is also a very difficult time for you. Give yourself time and treat yourself with compassion.