Embarking on a divorce is a time of significant uncertainty, especially for Maryland spouses who share children. Parents want to make this process as easy as possible on their kids, and will go to great lengths to structure divorce and child custody around the needs of their children. One thing that is often overlooked, however, is timing. Choosing when to initiate a divorce is important, and finding the best possible timing can have a significant impact on how children will weather the change in their family structure.
Some parents feel that summer break is the best time to broach the subject of divorce and child custody changes. Kids usually have much more free time during the summer, which makes it easier for parents to spend time with them discussing matters and working through any emotional issues that might arise. Summer break also provides time for kids to adjust to their new living arrangements before the pressures of the school year kick in.
Other families feel that it is better to initiate a divorce during the school year. When school is in session, kids have a structured schedule in place. They also have access to a support network of friends, teachers and other contacts outside of their family, which can provide opportunities for working through various family issues. For some kids, having the distraction of a busy school year can make it easier to cope with the divorce process.
This is an area where there are no cut-and-dried issues. Each Maryland family has a unique set of needs, and the optimal timing will differ from one family to the next. What is important is that both parents can work together to structure a divorce and child custody process that is in line with the needs of their shared children. Placing kids at the center of the process can help parents move through the steps with reduced tension and an improved sense of cooperation, which can greatly aid co-parenting efforts in the years to come.
Source: The Huffington Post, “7 Secrets For A Child-Centered Divorce“, Bari Zell Weinberger, Feb. 24, 2017